Who Pays for the Wedding?

Traditionally when planning a wedding,
who pays for what?

When planning a wedding, one soon realises that no matter how you look at it, it could cost you a tidy sum. We have been collecting data from our brides over the past ten years and it never ceases to amaze us how much can be spent on a wedding. Some couples choose to have casual intimate affairs and have spent as little as $1,000, whilst others opt for something a little more grand and opulent and have spent as much as $100,000. However, no matter what your budget, we all would like to know who pays for what.

Most women today have jobs (as opposed to the long-ago days where many stayed home), which means both the bride and groom should have an income and may choose to pay for much of their wedding themselves, with a little help from their families. Traditionally, there are guidelines as to who pays for what, typically split between the bride and her family (who usually get the larger portion of the pie) and the groom and his family, (who generally manage to get away with less than half of the bill).

Following we have put together a list, by category, of the key items involved in organising a wedding. Alongside we indicate 'traditionally' who has been responsible for these items, bearing in mind that not everyone sticks to tradition.


Category Traditionally, Who Pays
Beauty
Bride's Hair ......................................... Bride
Bride's Makeup ...................................
Bride
Bridesmaid's Hair & Make-up ................ Bride
Bridal Party
Bridesmaids' Dresses & Accessories ....... Attendant
Flower girl's Dresses & Accessories .........

Bride

Groomsmen's Suits & Accessories .......... Attendant
Pageboy Suit & Accessories ................... Groom
Bride's Attire
Bride's Gown ....................................... Bride's family
Bride's Headpiece & Veil ....................... Bride's family
Brides Shoes & Accessories ................... Bride's family
Ceremony
Celebrant or Officiant .......................... Groom
Ceremony Decorations ........................ Groom
Ceremony Musician ............................. Groom
Ceremony Venue ................................ Groom
Flowers & Decoration
Bride's Bouquet .................................. Groom
Bridesmaids' Bouquets ........................ Groom's family
Ceremony Flowers ............................... Groom's family
Flower girl's flowers .............................. Groom's family
Groom's Boutonniere ........................... Groom's family
Groomsmen's Boutonniere ................... Groom's family
Reception flowers & Centrepieces .......... Bride's family
Gifts
Bridesmaids gifts ................................ Bride
Gifts for Parents ................................. Bride & Groom
Groomsmen's Gifts ............................. Groom
Groom's Attire
Groom's shoes and Accessories ............. Groom's family
Grooms Suit ........................................ Groom's family
Honeymoon & Travel
Spending Money ................................. Bride & Groom
Honeymoon Travel & Accommodation .... Groom
Wedding Night Accommodation ............. Groom
Misc
Bomboniere ...................................... Bride & Groom
Rehearsal Dinner .............................. Groom
Wedding Photography & Videography
Extra Prints & Video Copy .................... Bride & Groom
Photographer's Fee ............................ Bride's family
Videographer's Fee ........................... Bride's family
Wedding Reception
Beverages - Alcoholic & Softdrink .......... Bride's family
Master of Ceremonies .........................
Bride's family
Reception Meals ................................. Bride's family
Reception Music ................................. Bride's family
Reception Venue ................................ Bride's family
Wedding Cake ................................... Bride's family
Wedding Rings
Bride's Wedding Band ........................ Groom
Groom's Wedding Band ...................... Bride
Wedding Stationery
Invitations & Reply cards ..................... Bride's family
Thank you notes & Placeholders ........... Bride's family
Wedding Cars
Transportation .................................. Groom
Wedding Planning
Wedding Consultant ........................... Bride & Groom